Most people think that they can overcome a life-controlling problem on their own. They believe enlisting the help of other people is a sign of weakness. They are wrong.
The dynamics of entrapment hold us tightly. Self-deception blinds us to the truth. We cannot see ourselves as we truly are. We see things in extremes. We either excuse ourselves totally or swing to the other extreme and feel worthless and beyond help.
When people deceive themselves over a long period of time, they enter a state of delusion. This delusion makes people lose all perspective of reality. And without a clear view of reality, it is difficult to change.
This is why we need others. We need their eyes to see us how we really are and we need their voices telling us what they see. We need honest friends to help us overcome our life-controlling problems. This is why it is so much better to approach our problems in a group of like-minded and loving people, or at the very least, with a trusted friend who is not afraid to tell us what they see.
Are you trapped? Looking for help?
People who struggle with personal problems have usually done so over a long period of time. Many times they have tried to change or to stop what they're doing, only to fail repeatedly. They become very discouraged. They may desperately want to change, but they see no way that they can because of their history.
You must never give up hope, because truly there is help. What many people don't realize is that it's not that we just need to change our behavior. But we must see ourselves as we truly are. It is the nature of the human person to want to solve problems on our own to find ways where we can manipulate our lives and make our own selves happy.
You may struggle with the problem for many years, making every effort to overcome it. All of this results in despondency and often drives you deeper into the very problem you are trying to escape.
There really is hope for you. Real change can come to you. It happens in an environment where you can experience the combination of the working of the Spirit of God, the people of God and the Word of God. Living Free groups seek to encourage such an environment.