I just want to tell you a story that happened at our Insight group. A church that we planted, wanted to start Living Free; they had taken people through the facilitators training, and they asked me to lead their first Insight Group. I felt that I did not have time, but I so wanted them to start the Living Free material that I said okay.

We started the Insight group in which we had several couples. One couple continued to show up late, so I asked them to arrive on time without their "game" on. The husband, who is actually a former crack addict, said to me, "I'm sorry. I don't mean to disrespect you, but we've got to be in this course." They were allowed to continue the course even though they missed some of the first crucial weeks on trust. We were on about week six, and at the meeting I could tell the wife was a nervous wreck. I thought she was upset about the meeting running long.